How To Become A Patient Person
Patience has many incredible benefits. It makes our mind and body healthier, stronger, and more resilient. It increases our chances of having a successful job or career. It improves the quality of our friendships and relationships. It helps us manage our problems and challenges in life. But ultimately, the most beneficial quality of being a patient person is that he leads a life of great joy and happiness, in the short and long term.
A Patient Person
People are naturally drawn towards patient people because of the aura of calm and confidence they exhibit. Their disciplined and controlled demeanor makes others feel a sense of comfort and security, that no matter what everything is going to be okay. Because for a person of great patience, it is always the case. Great patience has the ability to overcome all obstacles life presents. Anger and hatred cannot unsettle a patient man. Jealousy and arrogance cannot move a patient woman. All of life’s setbacks and obstacles cannot bring down a person who is rooted in patience.
This is because a patient man knows one truth. That everything that arises, will inevitably pass away. Heartbreak will pass. Anxiety will pass. Discomfort will pass. Because nothing will ultimately last forever, a patient person only has to wait it out, and he will always reach the unfailing light at the end of the tunnel. If patience is so powerful, how does one cultivate it to a level one can begin to experience benefits. Here are some tips that might help you become a more patient person.
Becoming A Beginner Level Patient Person
This is the first strategy, if you have real problems with patience: start by simply keeping tally marks on a little sheet of paper every time you lose your patience. This is one of the most effective and important methods for controlling an impulse — by learning to become more aware of it. Once you become aware of your impulses, you can work out an alternative reaction.
Figure Out Your Triggers
As you become more aware of losing your patience, pay close attention to the things that trigger you to lose that patience. Is it when your co-worker does something particularly irritating? When your spouse leaves dirty dishes in the sink? When your child doesn’t clean up her mess? Certain triggers will recur more frequently than others — these are the things you should focus on the most.
When you first start to lose your patience, take a deep breath, and breathe out slowly. Then take another. And another. These three breaths will often do the trick, as your frustration will slowly melt away.
Count To 10
This one really works. When you feel yourself getting frustrated or angry, stop. Count slowly to 10 (you can do this in your head). When you’re done, most of the initial impulse to yell or do something out of frustation will go away. Combine this with the breathing tip for even more effectiveness.
Don’t try to become as patient as Job overnight. It won’t happen. Start with something small and manageable. Look for a trigger that only induces a mild impatience within you — not something that gets your blood boiling. Then focus on this, and forget the other triggers for now. Work on controlling your temper for that one trigger. If you can get this one under control, use what you learned to focus on the next small trigger. One at a time, and with practice, you’ll get there.
Becoming an Intermediate Level Patient Person
Take A Time Out
Often it’s best just to walk away for a few minutes. Take a break from the situation, just for 5-10 minutes, let yourself calm down, plan out your words and actions and solution, and then come back calm as a monk.
Remember what’s important. Sometimes we tend to get upset over little things. In the long run, these things tend not to matter, but in the heat of the moment, we might forget this. Stop yourself, and try to get things in perspective.
Every time a situation stretches your patience to dangerous thinness, just think of it as an opportunity to practice your patience. Because that’s what it take to become patient — practice, practice, more practice, and even more practice. And then some more. And the more you practice, the better you’ll get. So cherish these wonderful opportunities to practice.
This works best if you do it before the frustrating situation comes up. When you’re alone and in a quiet place. Visualize how you want to react the next time your trigger happens. How do you handle the situation? How do you look? What do you say? How does the other person react? How does it help your relationship, your life? Think about all these things, visualize the perfect situation, and then try to actually make that happen when the situation actually comes up.
Remember That things can take time
Nothing good happens right away. If you expect things to happen at the snap of your fingers, you’ll get impatient every time. Instead, realize that things will take time, and this realization can help your patience tremendously.
This is something that helps me a lot. I remember that no one is perfect, and that everyone has a lot to learn. Be patient, and teach others how to do things — even if you’ve tried before, it might be the 11th time when things click. And remember, none of us learn things on the first try. Find new ways to teach something, and you’re more likely to be successful.
Becoming an Advanced Level Patient Person
Find Healthy Ways To Relieve Frustration
Frustration can build up like steam in a pressure cooker, and if you don’t relieve that steam, you’ll explode. So find ways to relieve that frustration in a healthy way. Punching a pillow, going outside to a place where you’re all alone and yelling, exercise, kickboxing … these are just a few examples. Once you get that frustration out of your system, you usually feel better.
You can’t meditate in the middle of a frustrating situation, usually, but often meditation can help you to learn to find a center of calm within yourself. Once you learn how to go to this calm place, you can go there when you begin to get angry. Meditation can also help you to be in the moment, instead of always wanting to get to the future, or instead of dwelling on the past and getting angry about it.
Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that no one is perfect, that we should be enjoying this time with our loved ones, and that life should be fun — and funny. Smile, laugh, be happy. It doesn’t always work, but it’s good to remind yourself of this now and then.
Instead of reacting with anger, teach yourself to react with love. Your child spills something or has a messy room or breaks your family heirloom? Your spouse yells at you or is cranky after work? React with love. It’s the best solution.
These tips may seem very simple and straightforward but if you can continue to put these ideas into action, you will very quickly begin creating positive patient-based habits that will change the way you perceive the world and also change the way people perceive you. Once habits are created, the next part is to monitor them to make sure they don’t lose traction. Put even more effort into maintaining these wholesome habits until they become part of who you are and how you respond to your environment.
Eventually, patience will become rooted into your very being and you will have a strong natural aura of effortless calming patience. Everything in life then becomes much easier, happier, and much more meaningful. Patience is the key to a joyful and fulfilling life. See for yourself.
Thanks for reading,