Our Parent’s Love – The Kindness of Our Parents
We only have one mother and one father, and from the moment we were born, we relied on them heavily for everything. A parent’s love is the closest thing resembling unconditional, selfless love that we can find within the universe, and because we have a strong affinity with our parents, we were born into their lives, becoming a significant part of the being. The special bond we share with our parents is often taken for granted because it’s all we’ve ever known, experiencing their undying love from our very first breath until their very last. Today I’d like to highlight the many ways our parents’ love has impacted our lives and how we can practice filial piety as an expression of our gratitude and appreciation towards them.
Our Parent’s Love in Sacrifices
Like ourselves, most of our parents had their own dreams and ambitions in life, whether it was to travel the world, start a business, realize their dream job, or work on their hobbies. Before they introduced us into their lives, our parents were just kids themselves in a sense, following their hearts and chasing their passions. However, from the day we were born, their lives would never be the same again. Everything was no longer about themselves anymore, and not only did they have to put aside their personal ambitions and interests, they also had to learn the way of parenting, a life long lesson that no textbook or teacher can ever prepare you for. Our parents could only gather their confidence, count on their parent’s intuition, hold their spouse’s hand, and learn as they went, growing into their roles a day at a time. And for many parents, like mine, they even had to walk the path of parenthood singlehanded and assume the roles of both mother and father. It is said that only when one becomes a parent does one truly begin to appreciate the sacrifices and efforts parents go through for their babies, and I am yet to fathom this meaning completely.
All parents will also tell you that for the first two to three years of a new born’s life, they could not leave the infant’s side. Not only did they have to be available around the clock for anything we required such as feeding, cuddling, changing nappies, showers, and putting us to sleep, our parents did all this on minimum, poor quality, broken sleep. When our parents were exhausted, stressed, and feeling helpless, they had no choice but to carry on, shouldering the burden all on themselves, because if not them, then who? To our parent, no one else could ever love us the way they do. Although we were physically there with our parents from day one, we were completely oblivious to their hardship and sacrifices. Now that we are older and more aware, shouldn’t we express our gratitude and appreciation for all that they’ve done for us while we still have the chance?
Our Parent’s Love is Unconditional
Over the course of our lives, our parents have provided for our education, food, clothing, shelter, emotional support, and much much more, doing so unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. It’s inconceivable the profound love our parents have for us and how perfectly willing they are to just keep giving when all we ever do is take. Not only that, how many of us are thankful, acknowledge their efforts, or express our appreciation? Many of us not only take our parent’s love for granted, but we often blame and complain when we don’t get our way. But our parents never mind, they just keep on loving us the same way, the only way they know how.’
Our parents provide us with everything we need to live the best life they can offer, ensuring we are always healthy and happy. Our happiness is their joy, and our pain is their suffering. When we scored good grades, landed our first job, or met our first love, our parents shared in our happiness and success. When we were sick, got injured in an accident, or experienced severe disappointment or setbacks, our parents also shared in our suffering, wanting nothing more than to bear all our pain for us. Nowhere else will we find anyone that loves us so unconditionally and selflessly the way our parents love us.
Importance of Filial Piety
Being mindful of all that they have done for us and all they are still doing, how can we truly show our gratitude and appreciation? In eastern culture, filial piety is the single most important value a person can cultivate because it is a sign one recognizes the compassion and kindness of their parents. It is also why they take great pride in being a caring, respectful, and respectful son and daughter. Consequently, these values are passed down from generation to generation and when it is the child’s turn to become a parent, their children will learn from the example they have set and also grow up with strong filial values.
To practice filial piety and express our gratitude for our parents’ continual love and support, we must learn to look after their physical and emotional well-being. This means offering everything within our means to ensure our parents live in joy and comfort, that they have enough food to eat, a comfortable place to live, have meaningful and fulfilling work and activities, and have all the emotional support they need to live free from fear, stress, and anxiety. Not only do we aim to return all they have given us, but we should also try to return much more. When we can provide more than past generations, it is a sign of improvement and progress, and it represents the progression of humanity as a society.
Our parents have provided the foundation and all the necessary conditions for us to have the life we have today. If not for their kindness and compassion, we would be worse off without question. We must not take for granted the love and support they have given us over the years and continue to give us today. This is why it is essential to practice filial piety, tell our parents we love and appreciate them, look after their well-being, and assume responsibility for their joy and suffering as if it were our own.
We not only owe it to our parents to be good sons and daughters, but it is also our duty as a human being. Because by practicing filial piety and providing our parents with more than they have given us, we ensure our generation is progressing in terms of human values and virtuous qualities, something that no money can buy and no infrastructure can build. We simply need to illuminate our minds with gratitude and appreciation of our parents’ kindness and be mindful of their constant selfless sacrifices. Then we are not only repaying their decades of efforts and hard work, but we are also creating a generation and society that’s deeply rooted in the values of loving-kindness, sincere gratitude, and great joy.
May we all be the greatest sons and daughters we can be and always hold in our hearts the compassion of our parents, using their unconditional love as a standard for how we should treat one another.
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