How to Speak Good Words
The power of words cannot be underestimated. It is said that a single word can destroy a country but can also save a nation. Because we use words to communicate with one another every day, it is our responsibility to be conscious about what we say and how it affects the feelings of others. The Buddha once said that ‘better than a thousand hollow words, is one that brings peace,’ and from that, we can recognize the potential good speech holds, and how wholesome speech can promote positive relationships and result in harmony and happiness for us all. Below are three qualities of good speech we should be mindful of, to encourage and inspire us to use the power of words for the good it can bring.
Good speech brings people together
Good speech brings people together. It is important always to remain mindful of what we say and how it may be perceived so that we do not inadvertently create misunderstandings or conflict amongst others. Things like gossip, slander, double-tongued speech and lying are very damaging and negative and should always be avoided. Not only that, such harmful speech creates stress, animosity, and anxiety among others while potentially causing rifts and tension in interpersonal relationships. Instead, we should practice speech that encourages harmony, positivity, and openness, such as words of support, compliment, inspiration, hope, and advice. As long as our words are coming from a gentle, kind and empathetic heart, it can generally be considered good speech that brings people together.
Good speech eliminates problems and dissolves conflicts
Good speech eliminates problems and dissolves conflicts. We live in a world full of competition, disharmony, tension, and resentment, and the last thing we want is to add to the problem. One single word has the power to instigate great violence and suffering but also has the potential to heal wounds and inspire progress. We all hold within us this remarkable potential to create so much goodness and positivity with our speech, it would be regrettable if we didn’t exercise it. Examples of good speech that eliminate problems and dissolves conflicts include words of forgiveness, words of acceptance, and words of encouragement. Things like, ‘I believe you,’ ‘everything is going to be okay,’ and ‘don’t worry I am by your side’ when said at the right time, can make a world of difference. If we are using the power of speech to improve relationships, strengthen morale and guide others towards what is wholesome, we are exercising good speech.
Good speech leads to profound happiness
Finally, good speech leads to profound happiness. From what we say, others should be able to feel our sincerity, our concern, and our kind intentions. It should leave them feeling cared for, relieved, and joyful. The things we say also reflect the person we are because it allows others to see what is inside our mind. We want to be someone who everyone feels comfortable around, who people enjoy spending time with, and who can be trusted as a kind and honest person. By always remaining truthful with our words, we gain the trust of others. Through supportive speech that inspires others with confidence, we also earn their friendship. And when the things we say is always positive and uplifting, we create a happy environment for everyone around. This is why good speech leads to profound happiness.
Some examples of simple everyday good words that you can exercise right now:
1. Apologize to a friend or family for something you did
2. Say thank you to someone who has helped you
3. Praise a colleague for their good work
4. Smile and greet someone at work
5. Tell your parents or grandparents you love them
6. Tell someone who’s feeling low on confidence that they are special and important
7. Ask your loved ones how their day was
8. Ask your family if there is anything you can do for them
9. Answer the phone in a cheerful way with a smile on your face
10. Tell your family or friends you appreciate having them in your life
11. Share a story or experience with someone who is close to you
12. Tell a friend or family that you are always there for them.
13. Tell yourself that you are kind, happy, and important and mean it.
14. Check up on a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while
15. Express to someone how much they mean to you
A person who speaks with kindness, sincerity, and openness is a friend to all and is regarded highly by everyone. Such a person lives a happy life full of meaningful relationships and is always greeted by others with warmth and affection. When we maintain mindfulness of the thing we say, we will naturally avoid saying things that create negative feelings or that instigate conflicts. Instead, we use speech as a tool to bring others joy and comfort, to promote healthy relationships, and to resolve the problems around us. May we all enjoy the beauty of good speech and realize its boundless potential to harmonize the world.
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